Dating and Marriage
If you know me, you know how much I hate dating. Ever since my first date I've hated the whole experience, it's awkward, stressful, and just overall not fun. I've been very successful in avoiding it for the past couple years and I honestly don't mind that everyone around me is going on multiple dates and I'm not. During my first semester at BYU-Idaho I had a friend that would go on a date every weekend, usually with a different guy each time, and that sounded absolutely exhausting to me. The idea of having to show off your best self every weekend is horrible to me and I would much rather be by myself in my room binge-watching Netflix. Of course, I know this is not the best and it's probably not the healthiest to be by myself so often but my past experiences have been exhausting and completely draining that even after just one date I'll go on a dating hiatus for months. So what are we even doing when we go out and date? It's obvious to many that we're looking for someone to spend the rest of our eternal life with, and someone to start a family with.
Most people tend to be selective when it comes to dating, for good reason, and most people are likely to date someone who is like them in many different ways. You are more likely to marry someone that has the same social and demographic characteristics as you for the simple fact that it's easier to be with someone that understands, literally, where you're coming from. It's not just true that you are more likely to marry those that live in your surrounding area just because they are close, but because how the two of you grew up is likely to be similar. It makes sense and I've noticed this in my life with me living so far away from home, even when it comes to friendships, it's been harder for me to find people I can truly connect with because how we grew up can vary so much. Many other factors go into who you may choose to date and or marry, including education, religion and personality traits.
Research shows that man are more likely to marry someone who has the same, or slightly below, their own educational level. While both men and woman say they are willing to marry someone with more education, the majority marry within the same educational level.
Going to BYU-Idaho I'm surrounded by people that don't consider the time you spend dating before marriage to be super important. I've had roommates that start talking marriage plans just weeks after they started dating a guy and I've had friends that met someone at the beginning of the semester and were engaged before the semester ended. The amount of time you spend together while dating before marriage can really make a difference and although I have known couples that only dated for weeks before the engagement and have seemingly happy marriages, the odds are the longer you date someone before marriage the more likely you are to have a happy and rewarding marriage.
Most people tend to be selective when it comes to dating, for good reason, and most people are likely to date someone who is like them in many different ways. You are more likely to marry someone that has the same social and demographic characteristics as you for the simple fact that it's easier to be with someone that understands, literally, where you're coming from. It's not just true that you are more likely to marry those that live in your surrounding area just because they are close, but because how the two of you grew up is likely to be similar. It makes sense and I've noticed this in my life with me living so far away from home, even when it comes to friendships, it's been harder for me to find people I can truly connect with because how we grew up can vary so much. Many other factors go into who you may choose to date and or marry, including education, religion and personality traits.
Research shows that man are more likely to marry someone who has the same, or slightly below, their own educational level. While both men and woman say they are willing to marry someone with more education, the majority marry within the same educational level.
Going to BYU-Idaho I'm surrounded by people that don't consider the time you spend dating before marriage to be super important. I've had roommates that start talking marriage plans just weeks after they started dating a guy and I've had friends that met someone at the beginning of the semester and were engaged before the semester ended. The amount of time you spend together while dating before marriage can really make a difference and although I have known couples that only dated for weeks before the engagement and have seemingly happy marriages, the odds are the longer you date someone before marriage the more likely you are to have a happy and rewarding marriage.
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